The best time is before you need it.

Illustration of a woman with dark curly hair and a man with glasses sitting on rocks, facing each other in a peaceful outdoor setting with a winding colorful path leading to an open door and a flowering tree in the background.
Illustration of a woman with dark curly hair and a man with glasses sitting on rocks, facing each other in a peaceful outdoor setting with a winding colorful path leading to an open door and a flowering tree in the background.

Premarital counseling isn't just for couples with doubts — it's for couples who want to start strong. Investing in your relationship before marriage leads to greater long-term satisfaction and resilience. Whether you're newly engaged; planning a wedding; or simply moving toward deeper commitment, the goal is to get on the same page about the things that matter most. Sessions are collaborative and forward-focused. We'll identify your strengths as a couple alongside the patterns or differences worth addressing now, before they become entrenched. Many couples find this process both clarifying and connecting. Less about problem-solving and more about building a shared foundation with intention.

How it Works

01

Assess

We start with the Gottman Relationship Checkup, a comprehensive research-based assessment that maps your relationship across the areas that matter most: friendship, conflict, intimacy, and values.

02

Explore

Together we work through what the assessment reveals — not as a problem list, but as a map. Where are your genuine strengths? What differences are worth identifying now, before they become patterns?

03

Build

Sessions close with shared language and concrete tools you can actually use. Most couples leave with more than they expected — not just clarity on friction points, but a stronger sense of what they're building together.

What We Cover

Close-up of two hands reaching out towards each other across a wooden table in a cozy living room.

  • Learn how to express your needs clearly and listen deeply to your partner, so you can feel truly heard and understood in your relationship.

  • Discover healthy ways to navigate disagreements so that arguments bring you closer together rather than drive you apart.

  • Explore your spending habits and long-term financial goals so you can build a shared vision for your future together.

  • Create an open, judgment-free space to discuss your needs, desires, and expectations around physical and emotional intimacy.

  • Understand how your upbringing shapes your expectations of marriage and develop strategies for navigating relationships with extended family.

  • Align on whether, when, and how you want to raise children — including discipline styles, education, and the values you want to instill.

  • Have honest conversations about household responsibilities, career goals, and how you'll share the mental and physical load of running a home together.

  • Explore how your spiritual beliefs and practices — whether shared or different — will play a role in your relationship and family life.

  • We're solid. Why do we need this?

    Familiarity and depth aren't the same thing. Most couples have never had a structured conversation about how they'll handle financial stress, whose career takes priority when there's a conflict, or what they actually need when things get hard. This creates the space for those conversations.

  • Is this only for religious couples?

    Premarital counseling has deep roots in religious traditions, but the work I do is entirely secular. There's no framework to follow, no agenda to fit into, and no values being pushed — just evidence-based tools, thoughtful questions, and honest conversation designed around your unique relationship.

  • What if we find a dealbreaker?

    The short answer is: it's better to know now. If there's something significant between you, it's already there — counseling just gives you a structured, supported space to look at it together. Most couples find that what arises is workable, and that naming it makes them feel closer, not more uncertain.

It’s time to break free from old patterns.

SCHEDULE A CONSULTATION